You don’t marry a gender; you marry a person. And yet the majority of Christian marriage books dole out advice based on gender stereotypes: “men need adventure,” “women need security,” “men like quiet time,” “women process verbally,” “men crave respect and control,” “women crave love and emotional intimacy,” “men are like microwaves,” “women are like ovens.” But even before we got married, Dan and I realized that just as often as we fit these generalities, we don’t. Dan knows I’d prefer tickets to a football game over a nice piece of jewelry and that too much security and not enough adventure leaves me feeling bored. I know that Dan is better at nurturing friendships than I am and thrives creatively when he has the chance to collaborate with other people.
So for all of this talk of men being “wired” one way and women being “wired” another, we have found, as Micah Murray puts it, that “wires are for robots.” We are human beings, and we relate to one another better when we stop expecting the other person to behave in a prescribed, programmed way but instead talk openly with one another about our actual desires, preferences, hopes, and expectations.
Just showing off: it’s amazing how talented and inspired and wholehearted my friends are. I wouldn’t be who I am today without their company and community. Esp this one, who just gets my heart. @natt_nyland is truly a beyonce. #vscocam
Okay, so I was tagged in that cool post-5-photos-you-feel-~beautiful~-in and I’m a supporter of that, right? I think it’s easy to tear ourselves down, so I’m here for building ourselves up as well. Anyway, Danni and Melody tagged me! I want all of my followers to post 5 photos they like about themselves for the hell of it. YEAH
Saturdays are for adventure; Sundays are for cuddling
General life philosophy (via kmaynard
Headed back down towards Atlanta right now to pack up my studio then moving to Nashville! It’s gonna be a rad few months comin’ up, glad y’all are coming along for the ride ✋ (ps Andy thanks for letting me borrow your daughters finger puppets 🙈)
My cousin got hit by a truck.
He’s fine nothing broken but he has the sickest bruise ever!! Like holy shit you can see the outline of his muscles and bones on his chest?
This thing is awesome.
I told him he should get it tatted to always remember that he survived getting hit by a truck lol