You see her for the first time and she’ll walk right past you like you are a crack in the wall and she is a skyscraper with her head so high in the air and when you can’t sleep you’ll think about the way her eyes strayed into yours for a moment too long before breaking away and disappearing into the crowd of people.
She’ll look both ways before telling you she loves you under her breath and when she hugs you her eyes scan the empty room as if the walls had eyes and ears and mouths that could give you away.
When she’s curled up on your lap shaking with mismatched breaths you’ll wonder how someone who looked like she carried mountains on her shoulders could crumble so easily in your arms like the tornado in her mind finally hit her and knocked her off her feet.
In half-light she’ll run her fingers over your arms like she is reading words carved into your skin, binding them together into the perfect metaphor and you’ll hear it playback in your head at 4am when your head runs wild with thoughts of her.
You’ll find a safe haven on rooftops and abandoned rooms where she’ll set fire to your insides with hushed breaths between kisses planted perfectly on your lips and make you wonder how dangerous it is to play with wild flames while your body is made of paper.
You’ll stare God right in the eye and tell him that if loving her was a sin then you want no place in heaven with him because the way her lips fit perfectly on your neck is a type of paradise you’ll never forget.
“Men must think biblically of women and push against the stereotypes of women as mere sexual creatures or servants put here for our pleasure or comfort. Because of the Imago Dei, men must think biblically of women and treasure them as sisters and co-heirs, daughters of the King and glorious, not dismissing them intellectually or robbing them of the right to exercise their gifts within God’s beautiful design.”—Matt Chandler from this sermon (via yesdarlingido)
“No one deserves hell. Do our actions deserve hell? Absolutely. But to declare that humans, in their very being, deserve hell is to deny the purpose of God. What we deserve is to be like Jesus and share in the life of God, because this is the very reason and purpose for which we were created. Which came first: the good creation or the fall? Sin and hell aren’t what we deserve; they keep us from what we deserve.”—B.B. // (mis)understanding God
I hope this isn't weird to ask but I don't know who to ask. What would you tell a Christian woman who has been struggling with looking at porn/lust? I feel like everyone thinks only men do.
Hey love. I think first and foremost, you need to realize that you are far from alone. Just because women are naturally less visual than men does not mean we are not visual at all, because we are, to an extent. And we still have a sex drive, we still lust, we still struggle. All of us. You and I both.
Keeping that in the front of your mind, know that telling yourself over and over, “don’t look at porn. don’t look at porn,” isn’t going to break the habit. Your mind is still focused on porn. Breakthrough lies in a shift in your focus. The more you focus on Christ, and on other things, the more that His love will compel you to turn away from it. Your desires will change.
But it’s not easy to just change your focus. You’ll need help. Seek it. Find accountability. Put locks on your computer. Request that someone you trust asks you everyday.
All of these things won’t work unless you truly desire to change. You may still want to follow those lustful feelings but if you want that to change, you will. Nothing is holding you back from that, you are free and you are capable. Your ability for pure thoughts has already been won for you, it’s just a matter of setting yourself up to walk in it.
When a man and a woman love each other, that thing between them, that bond that doesn’t let them walk away, that’s God. He’s the third part, uniting them, drawing them to one another even when they’d rather cut and run …
That’s why we can hurt one another so badly and then forgive and love again, because God’s changed all the rules and redefined the parameters - it’s His way of doing things.
That’s what marriage is - it’s showing the world how God loves. It’s public and accountable but it’s also passionate and private.
It’s that third thing that knits us all together, that makes sacrifice simple and heroism the new normal. It’s Him that makes a you and a me into an us.
That’s why nothing else in the world is like it. That’s why it feels so powerful and so beautiful and so terrifying, because it’s Him.